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P is for ‘Psychic’: 6 Tips for Improving your Intuitive Abilities.

 

Everyone is psychic. If you are a conscious being, then you are a transmitter of conscious energy, and the energy that you transmit can be perceived and interpreted by others, just as you can perceive and interpret the transmissions of others. This is the foundation of psychic connectivity, and is essential to your understanding of other people and the world around you.

Whether you are experienced at perceiving the world on a psychic level; or your psychic capabilities have lain relatively dormant, these five tried and tested tips are guaranteed to sharpen and enhance your intuitive abilities…

1. Meditate, meditate, meditate.

Meditation is the first and most important step in developing your psychic abilities. Meditation allows you to know yourself on a deeper level, and that is essential if you want to know others on the psychic level. When you meditate, you connect to different frequencies of reality in which psychic knowledge can be made available to you. There is no right or wrong way to meditate. What’s important is that you feel relaxed and comfortable, so that your mind can move out of the beta state (the everyday brain state that copes with stress, rush and anxiety) to alpha, theta and delta states which allow the flow of psychic information to come to the fore. Meditate every day, even if it is just for 5 minutes, and you will notice a difference in your psychic capabilities. Check out this video for a demonstration of how your brainwaves change when you meditate…

2. Work with someone you trust, with a view to helping each other develop.

The perfect partner is someone who is interested in developing their own psychic abilities; who you don’t know very well, but you know him or her well enough that you are comfortable with him or her, and who is willing to commit to your mutual growth. Take turns at being the ‘reader’ and the ‘recipient’. Having a guinea pig to work with is so useful because it allows you to apply what you have learned from your meditations in a safe, supportive environment. It’s like having someone spot you at the gym…only, for the soul! There are many different experiments you can try together to enhance your psychic connectivity. A good one is for the recipient to transmit a colour, emotion or memory, and for the ‘reader’ to receive the transmission and relay what he or she felt. Another good activity is for the reader to scan the recipient’s aura with his or her mind, and attune to one issue in the recipient’s life, for example, his or her career, and give information about that particular aspect. This is good practise for giving a well-controlled, well-rounded reading that addresses a number of concerns that the recipient might have. When you spend a lot of time connecting with someone in this way, a lovely friendship usually blossoms as well.

3. Practice, practice, practice!

Honing your intuitive abilities is like getting good at any other skill. It takes practice! When you feel ready, get friends and family involved. Do A LOT of experimental readings and as you do, remain very aware of occasions when the reading went well, and times when your readings went not so well. Ask yourself why one reading seemed easier than another. It may be something you can improve upon. Getting to know the feeling that accompanies an accurate message will help you to know the difference between a true psychic piece of information, and your own internal noise. This valuable knowledge only comes through practise and experience, working with many different people who each have their own unique energy. You should aim to get feedback from your recipients. Ask them which pieces of information rang true, which pieces of information gave them the greatest benefit, and which pieces of information they could have done without. This will give you an idea of the sorts of things people want to know about.

4. Feel the love.

Connecting with someone psychically is a very special experience. Both of you are acknowledging that there is some energy that connects both of you, and connects us all. As a reader, your recipient is trusting you with his or her emotions, history, hopes and fears. That is to be respected and cherished. Before each reading, I say ‘thank you for your trust’ in my mind and I really mean it. Do not forget the gravity of seeing so intimately into someone’s life. Three good rules are: If you wouldn’t like to hear it, then don’t say it. If you are about to talk about something sensitive, ask the recipient’s permission. Ask yourself, will this piece of information hurt or heal? Please note: No piece of information delivered with love will ever hurt your recipient.

Feeling the love also means looking after yourself. It’s amazing what a good night’s sleep, a healthy diet and good self-esteem will do for your psychic abilities. Respecting yourself and your role as a transmitter and interpreter of loving energy will improve your psychic abilities greatly.

5. Practise scrying with different tools and methods.

There are a variety of methods you can use to focus your psychic abilities. Over the years I have used angel cards, tarot cards, tea leaves, fire, ice, mirrors, palms, dreams, flowers, ribbons and a crystal ball (to name a few!). Using a divination tool has its good points and bad points. The negative side is that it puts something physically between you and your recipient, which leaves room for interference in your connection. The good points are that it can help with building your confidence because you can see symbols and shapes and attribute meaning to them that you wouldn’t have had access to without your scrying tool. You can often see the details of a situation more clearly as it is ‘laid out’ in front of you, and if you find it uncomfortable to work with a person’s energy directly, using a scrying tool can take the pressure off a bit. It’s important to note, however, that your psychic abilities depend upon the energy of the recipient. That is where the information and inspiration comes from – a divination tool just helps you to see it! Ideally, you want to work towards reading a person’s energy in its pure form, soul to soul.

6. Keep a journal that details your progress.

The purpose of this is twofold. The first reason to keep a journal is that you can reference it to see if there are any patterns that could give you insight about your strengths in terms of your psychic development. For example, you may look back over the months and see that you always get information about yourjournal recipient’s family situation exactly right. It can also help you to see if there are patterns in the information you struggle with. This can help you see the areas you need to work on moving forward. It also helps you to see where you could make your messages more specific, going forward, for example, you could use your meditation time to align yourself to receiving names, addresses and dates in future readings. The second reason for keeping a journal is that it wards off doubt. If you keep a journal, then you are documenting evidence that you have experienced psychic connectivity. If you get 7 out of 10 pieces of general information correct, that is statistically significant. If you do that 20 times over with different people, under a variety of conditions, then it is excellent evidence that you are utilizing your psychic abilities deliberately and intentionally to obtain the information. If you document 100 readings where you got names, dates and private inner thoughts of your recipient correct, then the odds of you guessing are infinitesimal! This will do wonders for your confidence and self belief which are essential for supporting your wonderful abilities.

Do you have a great tip for developing your psychic abilities? Have you tried any of the suggestions listed above? Please join in the discussion with your questions and comments!

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L is for ‘Love’: (Seven effects of love that ought to come with a warning label!)

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Photo by Dominique Godbout.

When you experience love, it is like taking medicine for the first time. As you adjust to the changing presence of love in your heart, you may experience some ‘side effects’- just as you feel the effects when you introduce a new substance to your body. The effects of love are manifold, and some of love’s ‘side effects’ are unexpected and may be a big change from your usual feelings. If love could be bottled – like medicine – and consumed to be experienced, then the bottle should come with these ‘warning labels’ of love’s unexpected side effects:

!WARNING!: When you truly experience love, you may feel like being alone.

When you think of love, you think of sharing love with your partner, family and friends, right? But experiencing love may have the opposite effect on you. Love might cause you to lock your door, unplug your phone, switch off the internet and be non-contactable, even by smoke-signal, if you are adjusting to loving yourself. It is hard to love yourself if you feel that you must constantly be giving yourself to others. To be alone is to look within, to be at peace, and to promote self-knowledge. To be alone is to accept your own company as good company: there is love in that acceptance.

!WARNING! Living with love may make you more aggressive.

Do you think of love as something floaty and passive and saintly? What if I told you that when you choose to experience love, you may start to give a shit about things you’ve never cared about before? When you experience love, the first thing to be cured is apathy. The second thing, is the sense that we are all separate from each other. Don’t be surprised when you welcome love into your heart, you begin to think ‘what can I do to help?’, ‘how can I change this?’, ‘how can I make a difference?’- love feeds your inner eco-warrior, your inner samaritan and your inner Robin Hood.

!WARNING! When you experience love, you may notice spontaneous physical changes in your body.

Do you love doughnuts? Do you love booze? Do you love junk food? When you ramp up the dosage of love in your life, you may not love those things so much. A weird side effect of love is that you may start loving life, your health and yourself too much to still love eating that crap. When you take a new dose of love into your heart, ‘I feel like eating a salad’ may spontaneously run through your mind…just sayin’…

!WARNING! Choosing love may cause you to quit your job.

Love, if you let it, will eventually course through every vein of your life. If you start out doing a job that is on a non-loving vibration, and you subsequently introduce a higher dose of love into your life, you may see, quite frankly, that you job is a waste of what you have to give. You may come to realize that your job does not support your wellness; you may see clearly that it doesn’t support the planet’s wellness. It may dawn on you that your work has fallen out of sync with your soul’s needs. If so, use love’s inspiration to guide you towards what to do to put it right. (This happened to me, I used to work for a credit card company).

!WARNING! Living a life of love may make you re-think your entire life.

Woah! This can be scary…when you begin to live with regular supplements of love, it may cause you to take stock of your whole life. Your life is not compartmentalized, everything has a knock-on-effect on everything else. Love causes you to treat people differently- that in itself can have a massive effect on the quality of experiences in your life. Love wants you to do things that support your wellbeing. Love encourages you towards happiness and peace. Love shoves you in the direction of joy….and the dominos continue to tumble.

!WARNING! Love will make you more self-interested.

To many, love means being selfless, but when you have love in your life, how can you be selfless? You are the facilitator of love by your thoughts, intentions, words and actions. In order to facilitate love, you need to have an understanding of love and to understand love, you need to feel loved…how can you possibly offer something that you have never felt? Not only is it perfectly acceptable for you to receive love, but it is absolutely necessary. Love has the weird side-effect of causing you to cultivate an understanding of love for others by loving yourself.

!WARNING! Love has been known to make people say sorry for their mistakes.

When you love, you don’t need to be right. When you love, you realize that there may be no such thing as ‘right’ because you become more compassionate and understanding of the coherent buoyancy of differing points of view. This may compel you to offer an apology – verbally or mentally but always sincerely – to someone, because through love, you see that contrast, contradiction and variety is fundemental to the overall progress of love. It is not about switching to another side- it is simply that there are no sides, just different expressions and various catalysts for love. Even the ‘bad’ stuff can be a catalyst for love. If you can accept that, then you’ve got the dosage just right.

These have been the seven effects of love that ought to come with a warning label. Can you think of any more?

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Next Time: L is for ‘Light’.

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H is for ‘Happiness’. Is there a secret to being happy?

Is there a secret to being happy? I used to think that happiness was a property possessed by people, places, things, habits and distractions. I used to think that to be happy, I had to have all of those things in my life. Imagine my shock and surprise when, the more I tried to cram ‘happiness things’ into my life, the less happy I felt.

Now that I am a little older and wiser, I have learned that happiness isn’t a property of anything outside of myself. Happiness is a property of me- if I choose it to be so. And happiness is a property of you- if you choose it to be so.

Happiness is a lens that you click over the camera of your consciousness. It is a way in which you choose to see the world. Happiness is a repetitive choice- if you wanna be happy, you gotta keep choosing to be happy, and here’s something that was a real revelation to me:

You can be happy, and still give yourself permission to feel other emotions. Happiness is NOT the repression of other feelings: it is the loving acceptance of all your feelings (and your beautiful self, more generally!)

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Happiness is being so so comfy in bed. Photograph used with kind permission from Jassy Earl @ http://www.jassyearlphotography.co.uk/

 

The thoughts you choose to think influence the way you understand the world: fact. If you wake up in the morning and immediately think, ‘I’m tired.’; ‘I’m miserable.’; ‘ I’m stressed.’;  ‘I have too much to do today.’; ‘I don’t want to go to this meeting.’; ‘I don’t like my job.
‘I’m dreading getting stuck in traffic.’; ‘ I’m always running late.’; ‘I look bloated today.’, etc. etc., then you are creating your world within a framework of negativity. A good technique to encourage happiness into your life is to bring positivity into your morning routine. Consider ‘deliberate positive thinking’ as important to your daily routine as brushing your teeth! Deliberately think about something positive right now. ‘Today is going to be a great day!’; ‘I look beautiful today.’; ‘I am a walking success!’; there’s a few to get you started! My personal favourite right now is simply:

I deserve happiness.

Go ahead and try that one on for size. Thinking positive is like going to the gym- it might take some time for you to get into the habit of it, but keep practicing.  Every time you choose to think positively, it’s a win for ‘happiness’. Think of it as those one or two extra reps at the gym – they are a worthwhile effort.

So what about when you don’t feel happy? Well here’s a thought: Worry, for example, is a state of mind that can only be achieved when thinking about the past or the future (as is fear, disappointment or anger). We worry about what has been, how we’ve been treated, how we’ve reacted.  We worry about past events, people in our past and past decisions we have made.

Or we worry about the future.  We worry about the rest of the day, the rest of the week, month, year- we worry about the rest of our lives that haven’t happened yet!

If you are worrying- or experiencing any fear-based emotion- then you are either living in the past that cannot be changed, no matter how much you worry about it, or, living in the future, and worrying about something that has not happened yet, and may never happen!  Fortunately, there is a place where worry does not exist.  You’re in it right now.  Right here, right now, in this present moment.

Close your eyes and take a deep breath, feel your whole body relax: everything is at peace.

When you catch yourself worrying or getting stessed out, bring your mind back to the present moment.  Take a few deep and natural breaths, and focus on your body, your breathing, your heartbeat. In the here and now, there is nothing to worry about. When you begin to worry, focus your mind on something beautiful in the present moment; look out the window at nature, think about something that makes you laugh, think about someone that you love. Happiness and contentment come very easily when we give ourselves permission to exist in the present moment.

What does your inner critic say about you? In order to be happy, you must have a good relationship with your inner ‘self’, perhaps you call that ‘self’ your ego. Be aware of what you think about yourself.  When you criticize yourself, you bring your energy way out of alignment with happiness.  If you think negative things about yourself, then you are thinking in a way that suggests that you don’t feel you deserve happiness.  Don’t be an enemy to yourself, instead, be your own best friend.  Think, speak, and act towards yourself, the way that you would act towards someone you love very much. Look in the mirror. The person looking back is a person with feelings, who is vulnerable, who will flourish like a flower when watered by love. You must count yourself amongst the people in your life that you love.  Speak to yourself in the way that you would speak to your best friend. You wouldn’t criticize them, speak badly of them and be unsupportive of them, would you?  Of course not! So why do those things to yourself?

Every day, look in the mirror and say, ‘I love you.’ And really mean it.

Choose to focus on your good qualities and the things you like about yourself. Think about those instead of criticizing yourself. If you catch yourself thinking something critical about you, then you have to think three positive and genuine things that you love about yourself to balance up the scales of happiness (hey, I don’t make the rules!). To make the most of the happiness that the world has to offer you, you must also think happy about yourself.

It is scientifically proven that being kind to others, receiving kindness from others, and even watching people be kind to each other, is good for your health! To be happy, you must be kind. Perform an act of kindness every day. It need not be a massive gesture, kindness comes in many forms, and as little effort as it takes to smile at someone in the street can help them remember their own inner happiness. Take a moment to reflect on the kindnesses that you have performed, because, guess what?, even thinking about being kind is good for you! As you consciously make kindness a part of your life, happiness will follow. Kindness and happiness are siblings who do everything together.

A great way to make room in your heart for happiness is to practise forgiveness. Believe it or not, making mistakes in life is allowed! It may also surprise you to know that when you make a mistake, you are not obliged to replay it over and over in your mind and hang on to it for the rest of your life!

Forgive yourself. Don’t beat yourself up about things. It wastes your energy and does not help you to feel better. Unforgiveness actually prevents you from experiencing happiness! For more on this, see my post on forgiveness. Forgiving yourself allows you to move forward into a place of increased happiness as you let go of some emotional baggage.

If you feel yourself getting stressed, worked up, unhappy or angry about something in your life, that is ok.  Accept the emotion, forgive the emotion, and just breathe!  There are many mental, emotional and physical benefits achieved just from taking a nice, deep breath.  Breathing helps you to become calm, it allows more oxygen to your brain and brings you back into the present moment.  For a quick fix of happiness, no matter what is going on around you, just take a nice, deep breath, in through your nose, expanding your ribcage and your tummy as you do, and out through your mouth, visualizing all your stresses being expelled by your breath.  Repeat a few times, and feel calmness and happiness return.

The best way to bring happiness into your life is to be grateful for what you have that already makes you happy! When you get snuggled into your pyjamas and get warm under the duvet, take a few minutes to list the things in your life that you are grateful for. For more on this, see my post about gratitude. What are you grateful for today?

Until next week: Do one thing every day that makes you happy. Do it with gusto. Savour it. Enjoy it. Appreciate it.

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